a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.
I want to talk about this issue. The main point that I want to point out for me before I talk about it is that for me, anxiety is a feeling. It’s a feeling of being “anxious”. It’s not something I need to take meds for. It’s just that, a feeling. (Besides, have you seen the side effects for the meds? Suicidal thoughts? Yikes.) People are emotional. In life, as things change, we go up and down. We are happy, sad, angry, excited, etc. The one thing that all of the emotions have in common is they change, as life does.
How did this all start?
I posted the other day on IG that I was having a hard time breathing. I couldn’t “catch my breath”. From the articles I found online I mostly related to something called Dyspnea. The article talks about chest tightening, shortness of breath and hunger for air. This is exactly what I was having. When I posted it on Instagram, hundreds of people quickly responded. A lot told me they were having the same thing, but they were talking to people about it and everyone had no clue what to say. They ended up going to the doctor’s office getting x-rays and nothing. A huge percentage of people also said two words ANXIETY ATTACK. My response was “I don’t have anxiety”. Then I thought about about it. I always assumed anxiety was a mental disorder. It’s actually a feeling. It’s a very normal feeling that is a part of life. WE ALL HAVE IT. Some have it worse than others but nonetheless, we all have it at some point or another. I started reflecting on my life. This is what I came to the realization of;
I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year who I was madly in love with and still haven’t had a second to cry and honestly probably won’t.
I am in the middle of buying my first home. By myself. *HOLY STRESSFUL
I have to move.
I own 2 business.
I am working 16+ hours a day and taking care of my kids, ALONE.
My first business is falling apart because my second one is consuming 100% of my time and I’m still DAYS behind.
I receive hundreds of messages and emails a day and don’t seem to make a dent in them and get annihilated with words for not responding.
I’m teaching hundreds of women how to grow their social media accounts to inspire others.
I am on my own weight loss/fitness journey and still learning.
Shall I go on?
Then I went over to my girlfriends house. We were chatting and having a good time and our kids were playing. I didn’t have my phone with me and I noticed, I wasn’t having breathing issues. So I started paying attention and it wasn’t coming back. Then, something was brought up and I started telling her about the stress from Instagram and I started having the breathing issues again. I noticed something. WHEN I am talking about these issues, I am panicking in my tone of voice. I am not breathing in the same way that I would breathe normally. I am talking FAST and RAPID breathing. So, I am literally changing my breathing pattern. Duh, I can’t catch my breath. I get it now. It also does happen when I’m not talking and when I’m thinking but again, I’m subconsciously holding my breath. Not for a long time, but longer than I normally would, causing breathing issues.
I’m sure as you’re reading this, you are thinking about everything you have going on. It’s a lot. We all have A LOT to deal with. It’s just a part of life and IT’S OKAY.
Here’s the thing, most problems have solutions. SO, implement them. That’s what I’m working on right now.
Here’s some additional natural remedy’s I have been using in addition. *Not related or affiliated in any way with the below
CALM – The Anti Stress Drink
I’ve used this in the past for muscle cramps. Then I realized it says Anti Stress so of course I gave it a shot.
Hot Tea Before Bed
Staying off social media as much as possible
Trying my best to stay away from any negativity or negative people
The BIG one for me is staying off social media. I notice just talking about it or even typing about it I have breathing issues. The thing is, I didn’t realize by putting my life out there, people would shove their opinions about EVERY SINGLE step I make down my throat.
“You’re a horrible person for using paper plates, you should be ashamed of yourself”
“You’re such a nasty person with a shitty personality”
“You’re the worst business woman I ever met, you’ll never make another sale ever again acting like you”
“That’s why your boyfriend left you”
“You looked better before”
Because my kids are mixed “No white man will ever love you”
You guys. It’s hard.
I’m working on it. I’m trying to advance to the next level but I want to be honest and open with you guys when I disappear. I want you to know why. I also want you all to know you are NOT alone. I quickly realized from posting what I posted on IG, how many people deal with this. It’s EVERYONE in some form or another.
I am going to continue posting regularly this week and get my blogs written for the topics I sent out.
I have so much to write about to help you guys with your weight loss journeys. But I will also share every step from here to there.
I love you guys. So much. You really have no idea.
Have a great week everyone!